2011 Reflections, 2012 Priorities

"When I come back like Jordan, wearin the 4-5. It ain't to play games witchu..." -Jay-Z

Been a looooooooooooooooooooong time, M.A.L.E.Hood faithful. An unplanned hiatus, but probably much needed. We're refocused, reshuffled & ready to take it to the next level, that's our word. I wanna thank a friend of both myself & Clarence, Sorangi, for throwing some much needed encouragement our way. The things this blog contains may seem to be common sense or basic knowledge, but as we've said before, we all don't have the answers. Some of these things were not being taught when we men & people were around. There's no shame in ignorance, but when you have an opportunity to educate yourself & don't, you lose in the game called life EVERY single time.

W/ that said, I had the opportunity to rep for M.A.L.E.Hood in a major way. A dear friend of mine, Keisha, is the senior feature writer for Exist Media & was kind enough to invite me to be apart of an video interview, which you can watch here: 2011 Reflections, 2012 Priorities. I was 1 of 3 & we got to give our thoughts on the year 2011 & our hopes for 2012. I feel honored to be alongside others doing big things & to see the finished product was a huge motivator. I encourage you to view it, it's good stuff, & swing by Exist Media's way & be sure to let 'em know that that M.A.L.E.Hood life put you in the know. Later people, be well & stay well. -Donny

Break-Up Rules of Engagement: Family

Okay so we've been gone for a minute, but that's only because we're all out and about in the world trying to reach our goals in life.

I've been talking with several of my male and female friends and we've all come to the conclusion that there is a plethora of people that don't understand how break-ups work.  What I mean is: when our relationship ends, your relationship with my family should end as well.  RULE # 2 of my Break-Up Rules of Engagement: Cut the ties to your ex’s family.

Drake said it best, "I wish she'd stop checkin’ up on women I can't stand 'cause I got new girls I could use her opinion on."  It's incredibly annoying to have your mother or dad bring up that she/he recently spoke with your ex when you’re introducing or discussing someone new.  “Your mom started messaging me and I didn’t want to be rude,” says the ex.  While I do appreciate you not being rude to my mother I’d really like to know why you didn’t just delete her when you deleted me.  Don’t worry because my mother and everyone else in my family will get this same talk.  

Letting someone go but remaining attached to their family creates an unnecessary tension within a family and between the new and old partner.  Even if you were really meant to be together you’re not giving the person the opportunity to see they made a mistake you’re just proving why you’re an ex.  If I was to find out you had been discussing our relationship with one of my parents, you’d be dead to me.  Personally, if I had access to my mother’s Facebook account like I had to her MySpace I’d block my ex’s. 

Naturally, most kids do the opposite of what their parents advise, so having their family on your side could put the individual against you. - Clarence