Break-Up Rules of Engagement: Family

Okay so we've been gone for a minute, but that's only because we're all out and about in the world trying to reach our goals in life.

I've been talking with several of my male and female friends and we've all come to the conclusion that there is a plethora of people that don't understand how break-ups work.  What I mean is: when our relationship ends, your relationship with my family should end as well.  RULE # 2 of my Break-Up Rules of Engagement: Cut the ties to your ex’s family.

Drake said it best, "I wish she'd stop checkin’ up on women I can't stand 'cause I got new girls I could use her opinion on."  It's incredibly annoying to have your mother or dad bring up that she/he recently spoke with your ex when you’re introducing or discussing someone new.  “Your mom started messaging me and I didn’t want to be rude,” says the ex.  While I do appreciate you not being rude to my mother I’d really like to know why you didn’t just delete her when you deleted me.  Don’t worry because my mother and everyone else in my family will get this same talk.  

Letting someone go but remaining attached to their family creates an unnecessary tension within a family and between the new and old partner.  Even if you were really meant to be together you’re not giving the person the opportunity to see they made a mistake you’re just proving why you’re an ex.  If I was to find out you had been discussing our relationship with one of my parents, you’d be dead to me.  Personally, if I had access to my mother’s Facebook account like I had to her MySpace I’d block my ex’s. 

Naturally, most kids do the opposite of what their parents advise, so having their family on your side could put the individual against you. - Clarence

Break-Up Rules of Engagement: Venting

So this is something I’m guilty of and it JUST went down in the nastiest of ways.  An important step in moving up from being a MALE to a MAN is maturity.  Since the rise of social media sites began relationships have gone South in the grimiest of ways, but it’s not necessarily because of cheating or flirting.  The main problem people seem to face is knowing when and when not to vent.

I recently took the childish route and did some venting on Twitter after receiving information I wasn’t particularly fond of.  I laughed at some real creep shit my friends said and ended up costing myself a great friend.  She’s heartbroken and so thrown by what took place that she fled the city.  There’s no telling what kind of psychological damage I did, and now this chick will forever resent and hate me.

Alright, I said all that just to give you RULE # 1 of my Break-Up Rules of Engagement (R.o.E): Never vent on ANY social media site about your EX or soon to be EX, ESPECIALLY if your privacy settings don’t restrict who sees it.  It honestly makes you look like an idiot and if you have any kind of conscience you’ll most likely feel like crap if you get the pleasure of listening to her burst into tears on the phone.  The mature thing to do would be to take what you hear or whatever’s bothering you to her and discuss it like a grown MAN should do.

Life is easier when you eliminate the childish options from your thought process. I'll let you in on some of my other rules of engagement later.- Clarence

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