Sensitive Side

"I was taught the true definition of a man was to never cry, work til you tired, got to provide. Always be the rock for my fam, protect them by all means, and give you the things that you need." - Musiq Soulchild, TeachMe

As boys we were taught or we deduced that being a man meant showing no fear, keeping our emotions hidden, and never admitting you're wrong. I’m here to tell you those were probably the most counterproductive lies we were told, and in this day and age those beliefs can keep many males from reaching MANhood.

If you’re going for the heartless mysterious bad boy then first off you’re on the wrong blog. Secondly, that only last for so long. Finally, you’re going to be one lonely old man, IF you survive that long because real street dudes kill pretenders. Let me get back to the MESSAGE I’m trying to send to you. We’re only human, we all experience fear and sadness at some point. Hiding what you feel adversely affects your relationships. Why would she turn to you when she’s vulnerable if she doesn’t believe you can empathize with and comfort her?

I’m not saying you had to break down and cry when the Heat didn’t win (even though it was a traumatic experience and worth a tear or two), but I am saying that taking the emotionless route will fail you more often than not.  I guarantee that if you took at least 5 minutes to open up to your chick about you, your past, or your feelings the dynamic of your relationship would change for the better. -Clarence

WHAT is M.A.L.E.HOOD?

M.A.L.E.hood is a concept that was created when several like-minded gentlemen realized collectively that the way most guys think, act & operate today is not the way that MEN should. So M.A.L.E.hood is basically what your father/grandfather/uncle/any good male role model should have or would have told you if they had the chance or knew what to say. Many of us did NOT have a decent father or any type of good male influence coming up, & it's not too hard to see the results. Outside of society, its caused many problems for us as boys. What to do, when to do, how to do, why I should do, where to do, and even who we should do. We've had to enroll in the School of Hardknocks & learn our lessons the best way we could, from whoever seemed to know more than we did. Some things we got right. Many we did not.

But thats all in the past. Some of us have emerged and done pretty well for ourselves. We've graduated into MANHOOD & now we're passing on the things we've learned & are STILL LEARNING on to those who are hungry for the heads up. We've gone through it so YOU DON'T HAVE TO. As guys we're taught to be independent, not ask for help, and never show weakness. Sorry, but that is total BULLSHIT. A man is NEVER independent if he doesn't know WHEN to depend. A man is ALWAYS helpless when he DOESN'T know how to ask for help. And a man is NEVER weak when he knows his weaknesses and tries to strengthen them. So stay tuned, soak up the wisdom in this blog, ask questions, and remember, we are ALL brothers striving for manhood...but first, you gotta go through M.A.L.E.hood-